Things change when you enter your 30’s. Your priorities shift & the things that once seemed so important take a backseat to other pressing matters such as family, career, time spent with loved ones, etc. It’s part of the natural evolution of aging and as much as you want to avoid it, it’s going to happen whether you embrace it or not.
With the rise of digital media we are constantly bombarded with beautiful imagery. Unfortunately, far too often we get caught up in the comparison game when viewing those images and begin to cast self-doubt upon ourselves simply because we don’t look like what we did back at 22 or what we see everyday come across our screens. On top of that we have the body shamers offering up unsolicited advice that make us want to crawl back into our baggiest sweatpants, curl up on the couch with an entire bag of popcorn and simply say SCREW IT!
This brings me to my Day 2 reflection. ↓
Reflections on 33 : Learn to Love Your Body & Embrace Your Imperfections
I can already hear the begrudging comments of “Sure Kristin, it’s easy to say, but not so easy to do.”
My hands are raised and I’m in that same boat with you. I feel pretty lucky however that I’ve always had a pretty good outlook on self image. I never put too much stake into it and have bounced around from a size 4 up to a size 10 throughout the years. The handful of negative comments I’ve received have stuck with me, but I don’t put too much weight into them. Maybe it’s growing up with brothers or being the ultimate tomboy that guided me towards this self-confidence, but I’m here to tell you that I have my fair share of bad days too.
If there is one topic where I will quickly jump on my soap box it’s when I hear body shamers cast negativity towards another person. I have no tolerance for it. It’s so unbelievably hurtful and the worst of it comes from women upon women.
In an open honest policy here, I have felt my most vulnerable these past few months. I wasn’t happy with what I saw in the mirror. I felt like I had let myself go & really felt unhappy with how I looked. Thankfully there are some AMAZING women who have paved the way towards learning to embrace the body you’re in, even when you aren’t a size 2. It was just the thing I needed to remind myself to love my body & embrace my imperfections. These chubby thighs that touch and the extra roll in my midsection remind that (a) I’m getting older, (b) you’ve been having quite a bit of fun and (c) they can still get me to the top of that mountain when I need them too.
Read Elana’s beautifully post on “How Hawaii Taught Me to Love My Body” and Jenna Kutcher’s “Love the Swim You’re In” featured on the Aerie blog. These ladies are so beautiful inside & out and their willingness to post themselves in swimsuits gave me the confidence to do the same.
What it made me realize is that I wasn’t necessarily upset with how I looked, but more about how I felt. I want to feel strong and healthy so I can conquer anything put before me and that’s my motivation to eat healthy and get back in the gym. The result will likely be a more toned body, but more than that will be the return of my self-confidence. Don’t confuse that with me feeling ashamed to put myself out there right now. It looks months to fall down that rabbit hole and I own that, so I understand it’s going to take months to climb myself back out.
Learning to love your body is the greatest gift you can give yourself and when you’re feeling down, give those thighs an extra squeeze and thank them for getting you around today. It’s embracing those imperfections that make us stronger & give us the realization that it doesn’t make us any less lovable.
Keep Living a Stylized Life.